3 Reasons Every Woman Should Know A Man’s Heart
Perspective is everything. One week ago, my amazing team and I hosted a casting call for my new theatrical production Ardre Orie Presents The Heart of A Man. As I sat at the casting, I was consumed with the May portrayals of men in the media. As a woman of color, I would venture to say that the negative outweigh the positive. However, I wholeheartedly believe that we have successfully realized distorted images of men and this conversation is not limited to just one race.
If you close your eyes and imagine an image of a man, who do you see? I am certain that we would all arrive at various answers; however who you see when you close your eyes, could determine your thoughts about the opposite sex. These same thoughts drive our relationships and interactions.
As I sat in the casting room, I only wished that America could see what we witnessed. We witnessed men being vulnerable and transparent, expressing their true feelings and chasing their dreams. We witnessed men who were witty and those who cooked and could make you laugh. We witnessed their hearts.
I belive that these are the images of men that women need to have to have happy, healthy friendships, relationships, business partnerships and more which is why I feel more passionate than ever about bringing this theatrical production Ardre Orie Presents The Heart of A Man to life.
We need to see positive images of men that restore our hope, faith and confidence and those that simply tell us the truth and for several reasons but here are my top 3:
- Women receive mixed messages from men about their beauty.
From the time that we are born, we are given s myriad of messages about how we should look jet to measure up to s non-existent standard of beauty. We do all that we can to be visually appealing to the opposite sex all the while not realizing that most men prefer women with less makeup, and those who embrace their natural beauty. And if that is so, why do women who appear to be glam around the clock and enhancements get more attention? I have observed, the discussion must be more than skin deep. To begin, men prefer confident women. If you don’t believe that you are worthy of love or believe yourself to be beautiful, how can you expect someone else to?
In 2024, Time Magazine revealed an article that ads proof to my theory above. The article yielded the following:
Science Shows Men Like Women With Less Makeup
People find women more attractive with less makeup. Women should probably cool it with the eyeliner.
New research published in the Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology found that people’s perceptions of what men and women find attractive are off. And even though many women decide to wear makeup to make themselves “more” attractive, they may be overdoing it.
The article goes on to say that women actually like more makeup on other women. Now, I love makeup and as the owner of a cosmetics company, I enjoy seeing the versatility and options that it provides to change our looks but not at the cost of self-love a girl’s best makeup is what’s in her heart.
2. The whole “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus” notion has become programmed in our psyche.
I do believe that often men and women communicate differently; however that in no way means that we can’t effectively communicate with each other. We have been programmed to believe that we will never understand each other. What if we had been told that the solutions were in our abilities to simply listen? One reason that I created Ardre Orie Presents The Heart of A Man is because it creates an opportunity for women to sit and listen while men speak. Women get to speak all the time about our feelings. It is a normal reality but men who do so have been labeled as weak. We may very well be from two different planets but we have to find a way to happily coexist here on planet earth.
3. We have all the power. We possess all of the power in the world.
We were created with it and it lives inside of us. We are only powerless when we don’t recognize our power. Men will listen to us if we believe in the messages that we have to share with them. During the process of the casting, there were so many men who expressed their desire to be heard by women not simply because they wanted to speak but because they believe women to be their best ally in life. We possess the ability to teach, give life, heal, nurse, revive and exalt. Imagine if we recognized how powerful that we are and used our powers to lift up the men in our lives. Imagine.
No matter how we view the glass, half full or half empty, perspective is everything.
It is my pleasure to introduce you to my new cast, the men of Ardre Orie Presents The Heart of A Man!