Sex Kittens & Damsels in Distress: 3 Ways to Create Your Own Character
This weekend, I did something that I rarely do, watch tv. For as long as I can remember, I have enjoyed and been entertained by my fair share of reality tv. I like everyone else, have watched, made judgements, laughed and even looked forward to many of the events portrayed on the plethora of shows offered to us but for some reason, last night it could not maintain my attention. I saw so many beautiful women but I couldn’t help but think that they were not an accurate representation of me or the amazing ladies that I know and engage with on a regular basis. And while beautiful, it would appear that this was all that many of them had to offer. It would appear that the media consistently feeds us two categories of women. I refer to these two categories as the “sex kitten” or the “damsel in distress”. If you ponder for a moment, you can think of countless women who have fulfilled these roles either hypersexualized or in need of someone to save them. Last night, I couldn’t help but wonder: “Where are all of the heroes?” Where are the ladies who are making a difference in their communities? Where are all of the mothers and grandmothers creating the leaders of tomorrow? Where are all of the successful entrepreneurs and bloggers and writers and actors who engage in philanthropic endeavors? Where are all of the leaders sitting in the white house, images of ladies running for president and passing bills to change laws? Where are all the heroes?
If we watched the media without a filter (internal), we would be left to believe that our only power lies within our abilities to channel the “sex kitten” or “damsel in distress”. News flash, we are so much more. Our power extends far beyond the parameters of either of these roles. The greater question is: “Do you recognize that your power has absolutely nothing to do with your outer appearance?”
I did manage to turn the tv off and spent a few minutes more reflecting on what I would do to harness my power. Truth be told, we have so much within us, we must take time to determine how we will best use it.
1. Create a filter.
No matter how we try to avoid it, we are influenced by the media that we consume. We must know when to dismiss it and when to take it in. All media is not bad, but all negative imagery can be detrimental if we see it as a part of who we are. Just as the impurities are filtered from the water, we must execute the same filtration process for what we allow to enter or souls and psyche.
2. Turn the tv off. This needs no further explanation. It is possible that there is a more enlightening activity that we can do to make use of our time. If we are not watching others, we make less comparisons and are left to become more of who we are as opposed to who the world is telling us to be. Click it and forget it.
3. Focus on helping someone else. When we find what we are good at and focus our attention on helping others, we become powerful beyond measure. In the end, this is what we most want to become known for anyway. This is where our legacy will live.
I challenge you to take 3 minutes to day and write down 3 ways that you will use your power to change the world, after all, you have all of the power that you will ever need. It lies within. All my love. ❤️
Ardre Orie, The Empowerment Maven
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