Is Modesty the Best Policy? 7 Reasons Why Chef Aesha Curry Might Have the Secret Sauce
Unless you have been absent from social media, you have probably been privy to the great debate recently sparked by Ayesha Curry. Now if you don’t know who Ayesha Curry is, allow me enlighten you. Ayesha is a mother of two daughters, a chef, ambassador
Recently Ayesha came under fire when she sparked a great debate surrounding modesty. You read it correctly, modesty. Who fights over modesty you ask? Apparently, Twitter. Ayesha who is heavily engaged in social media (like most of us) happened to be perusing a magazine and she tweeted the following:
Just looking at the latest fashion trends. I’ll take classy over trendy any day of the week. #saturdaynightinsight
Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters
Ayesha’s tweets got 14,000 re-tweets and 19,000 likes. The world was watching and ready to give their two cents.
The kicker is that most of her backlash came from women. Aren’t we the ones who should be fighting for the continued right to say exactly what we want to say? Since when must we now censor ourselves?
Her tweets were referred to as slut-shaming, body shaming and degrading.
Now, let’s examine:
Ayesha has successfully maintained a high profile marriage in a time of astronomical divorce rates.
Although fully clothed, Ayesha is still considered highly attractive to men around the world. Notably, Ayesha has the adornment of one of the most highly coveted athletes who demonstrates his love and support for her publicly and consistently.
Ayesha can be seen building a legacy with her husband and children.
Ayesha has a life and identity outside of her high profile marriage.
Aesha is a positive role model for both women and girls.
Ayesha can throw down in the kitchen and is preparing for the release of a cook-book.
Aesha took a stand for what she believes in, even if it is not popular.
I write so endearingly about ladies like Ayesha because we need more. I can give you countless examples of what we refer to as “sidepieces” and ladies who bear all for the world to see. As society would have it, they appear to be winning but what will their legacy be? I ask you to find the examples of those who are doing just the opposite and examine. Let me give you a few:
These ladies disrupt the status quo of what America has taught us about what it takes to be noticed. They demonstrate modesty on many levels.
Let’s also consider why Ayesha Curry can move about the world with such confidence. Aside from what she embodies naturally, she has a man who recognizes her worth. Her husband co-signs on how valuable she is. I can recognize this because this is also a part of my life. My husband helps me to feel beautiful so I don’t need to be validated by other men. But as women, we do need to be validated by men. We thrive from compliments and bask in glory when others recognize our beauty.
In the same token, men will never go on a campaign to tell us to wear more clothes and be harder to catch and maintain our confidence because these are the areas that they prey upon. Men are natural hunters and we are the prey. Half naked photos will always garner more attention on platforms like social media but men aren’t looking there for love, that is simply eye candy. And while candy is sweet to the taste one can’t live off candy alone.
The world has taught us what is popular and anything that goes against that is not welcomed. Ayesha’s tweets weren’t in alignment with the world. In my book A Heroine in Heels, I speak candidly about choosing a path that allows you to create your own rules. Our self-worth should not be determined by what the world thinks of us.
Now let’s be clear, I am an advocate for women being able to wear whatever their heart desires. I am an advocate for women, uncensored. However, I am always going to call attention to scenarios that allow us to create filters from the messages that mainstream media feeds us.
In music videos, magazines and even mediums that are not visual, women are exploited. That is fact, not opinion. This exploitation subliminally teaches us that this is who and what we are supposed to be. Have you ever wondered why men in suits are attractive but women in swimsuits garners more attention than women in oh let’s say ball gowns? Don’t we look stunning in ball gowns? Of course but nobody wants to see women in ball gowns. My question is why? I am only using ball gowns as an example but you get where I am going with this. Has society taught us that we only look our best when we show more? Why don’t we see men showing more?
The filter is recognizing how we have been programmed and understanding what we want to have manifest in our lives. What do you want the world to know about you?
We all have a platform to tell our stories and we should be allowed to do so.
Ayesha is the beloved wife of Stephan Curry, Point Guard for the Golden State Warriors and NBA Championship winner, mother of two beautiful daughters, a chef and entrepreneur and s teacher to that world about modesty.
Even after Ayesha’s tweet, her husband still supported her by tweeting a photo of her with the caption:
My woman #theinstagator
Looks like Chef Curry has the secret sauce after all. Now I ask you, who’s the real MVP?
All my love. ❤️
Ardre Orie, Author| Film Director |Advocate
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