It’s Not Our Job to Change the World
Lately, I have spent a great deal of time pondering who I was and reaffirming what I have to offer the world. I wanted to be more specific about my purpose and through this search, I know that I will take further steps towards destiny and assume a greater responsibility to empower others. One of the many titles that has come into my heart many times is “change agent”. A change agent is defined as a person who changes an organization from inside or outside the organization who helps an organization transform itself by focusing on such matters as organizational effectiveness, improvement, and development. And while I read the definition several times, the one word that emerged as important was “inside”.
I have found myself on countless occasions telling my daughters that they cannot change others, only themselves forcing them to take a closer look inwards. One of the greatest quotes that lives in our world by Mahatma Gandhi states: “Be the change that you want to see in the world”. We have spent so much time and money blaming others for the circumstances that unfold in our lives and in our world but the naked truth is that the greatest of all change happens inside of us and we are responsible for sharing this light with the rest of the world.
How much can we really blame mainstream media for the images that are portrayed of us and messages that we receive about ourselves? If we were brutally honest, we would have to be accountable for our roles in the way in which we are portrayed. We would have to take ownership of the power that we give away when we desensitize ourselves to the monetary gain that is placed upon the lives of the world’s most precious resource: the woman. If we didn’t want to see it on our tv screens, then the ratings would demonstrate as such. If the magazine stand was not pleasing to us and we demanded different images, if commercials weren’t demeaning and we demanded that women not be objectified, if the lyrics in music were not disrespectful and we demanded more positive vibes, would things be different?
And although I can not be certain of the exact outcome, I am on a crusade to be a reflection of the self-worth that we must find a way to possess no matter what the world tells us. In my book Consciously Beautiful: I Am Enough, a featured story of Melissa revealed the following quote: You are allowed to prejudge me. Should your judgements result in ignorance, it defines you; it does not define me.”
CB I resolve that there is an attack on women. Through much of my research, I have learned that there is a greater return on investment when the investment is made in women and girls. This is not to say that men are not worthy as they are without question. However, many studies find that women are more likely to take the education and newly acquired skill sets and reinvest them in their communities. Don’t just take my word for it, checkout this article from Forbes Smart Money Says Invest in Women. This is why women are the most precious resource that exists. So while it is not our job to change the world’s perception of women, it is without question our job to change the way that we see ourselves and demand the respect that we deserve. The greater question now becomes, do we recognize our worth? We simply can not afford not to, the world needs us. All my love!
Ardre Orie, The Empowerment Maven